You finish teaching your session and your whole body is saying “ugh.” Nothing bad happened, but nothing good really happened either. You showed up and you taught the Pilates to the best of your ability, but there were no discoveries, no miracles, no unicorns flying around the room… Why was this one different?
Though the “best” of our client sessions and classes are steeped with learning and growth, there will be some that simply keep the status quo or worse, just feel like they didn’t go well. We can’t avoid the lows in our teaching and certainly, they do offer us opportunities for growth. The trick is to not let these sessions become a theme of your work. When you have a session that doesn’t go as planned or doesn’t leave you with “all of the feels” it is important to check-in with yourself, investigate and create strategies for the future. In this week’s post, I’m sharing some simple ways to assess your teaching support systems, get back online and up your mojo for more of the good stuff!
What is happening?
The first step in the alignment check is to do a brief interview with yourself. Check in with the story you are telling yourself about your teaching and also the story you wish to be telling about your teaching. Ask and answer the following questions to see what you are working with:
- What do I believe is happening with my teaching this week?
- What percentage of this story is actually true?
- What would I like to be experiencing in my teaching this week?
- Were there any opportunities to have a more fulfilling experience this week?
What do I need to do to prepare and support myself?
Checking in with the factors that help a more fulfilling experience to emerge in your teaching means preparing and supporting yourself throughout each day. Sometimes this preparation will involve studying and tasks, however, sometimes it will be more of an energetic or mindful practice. Ask and answer the following questions to gain perspective of the tools you have and the tools you need to put into play:
- What would I need to do to prepare for and support the experience that I would like to have?
- Did I prepare or support the experience I wanted to have this week?
- Within my daily routines and rituals, what was I actually preparing myself for? Supporting myself for?
- How can I implement more of the preparation and support strategies that I believe would help me have the teaching experience that I wish to have?
What are the factors that are out of my control?
Sometimes clients come in with circumstances that have nothing to do with Pilates, yet set the stage for a challenging experience. Ask and answer the following questions to gain perspective about what you have control over within your hour.
- What were the factors that were out of my control in the sessions that felt the most problematic?
- What factors were in my control?
- What strategies may have helped to diffuse the factors that were out of my control?
- What strategies can I use to control my own responses and reactions to challenging sessions?
- Am I willing to work through challenging sessions?
- What are the support tools I need to work through challenging sessions?
Through interviewing yourself and gaining some perspective about what is available to you in terms of preparation and support, often times we can turn an “ugh” session into a “growth opportunity.” With the right mindset, every interaction can be our teacher. Just make sure to carry your support toolbox with you – whereever you go!
I’d love to hear how this post inspired you to see things differently and remember that you have much power within your teaching role. Post a comment and let me know what your experience was with the questions above.